Fergilicious!

My friend Fergilicious is having relationship trauma lately. She's an on again, off again relationship with a man we'll call SA (short for Stuffy Asshole). They have great physical chemistry, and a fair bit in common, but it sounds to me like SA wants just to use her as a receptacle.

Anyway, he doesn't want to date her, or have her as a girlfriend...he just wants her as a fuck buddy. Simultaneously he's telling her that she is the only one he can be his true self with.

I'm sorry, darling, but that sounds like the biggest line I've ever heard. He feeds you just enough affection/compliments to keep you around, while all the time running the other half of his game on some other woman. You can certainly very firmly put him in the friend category - that means no touching, no flirting, no hugs and above all NO SEX! I'm guessing that once he realizes he no longer has you on tap, he will either walk off or wise up.

Don't cry over him, either. It's a wasted effort...and it sucks to sit at home alone and cry over some idiot who either doesn't get it or doesn't care. You are SO much better than that; stop wasting your time on something that will never go anywhere. You only have one life; why waste it?

Love ya! :-)